Sunday, January 22, 2012

Some comment

This comment, from my SOPA post, shook my quiet Saturday.

(Outside the topic of SOPA). So you'd rather have a controlled environment where your hubby has nothing to do so he'll resort to writing you letters. How about you? When was the last time you wrote him? You don't have to wait for him to write, you can write him. Some positive actions from your part might bring back the lover in him you've been missing. Whining and being sad will not do anything. Write him, write more letters of love. Short notes would do. Leave it on his laptop, or slip it in his wallet. I'm pretty sure it's gonna work. It worked on me. I used to write letters for my fiance almost everyday. I stopped. I don't know why, it just did. But she didn't. And I'm thankful for that. I love writing her, and reading her letters brought back the romantico in me. Now we're writing each other again frequently. (our relationship is probably not as long as your's but this is coming from a man in an almost 10-year relationship)

First reaction - Ouch.
Second reaction - Do I even respond?
Third reaction - Cry. How come it worked for him?
Fourth reaction - Different strokes, you know the rest.
Fifth reaction - By writing intimate details about my life, I am opening my self to feedback, criticism, judgement, advice, lurkers, spammers, etc. - solicited or otherwise. Shake it off. Shake it off. I am at peace with the thought that I am loved, in a different kind of way.


  1. Something to ponder on;(saw this on facebook)

    Sweet Life

    My husband is an Engineer by profession,I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?”Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes…. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ”My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk… I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

  2. MORAL LESSON: That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments.

  3. Lousy story. Why would someone ask her partner to choose between picking a flower and death? It's stupid.

    The things that we need, as romantic partners, surely do not have that effect - death. I am not an expert on love and relationships but I do know for a fact what "fair" means. If you communicate your needs clearly and they are ignored, that's not fair... especially when your needs do not require near-death experiences. Hah.

    But then again, there's this ugly thing called compromise. And what I've learned is that this ugly thing could be beautiful. Really beautiful. Painfully pretty.

    Again, that story? Seriously? STUPID.